Culture probably gave a lot of contribution of people's way of thinking and actions, especially when it comes to rumors and impressions. On a country where courting in a way of singing in front of the girl's house and where parents hid their daughters to avoid men once upon a time, and in a society where growing out from that kind of culture is slow, things can go out quite differently, especially in my situation.
I have a friend of mine whom I've been close with for a few months. Nothing special, we go out on place like the canteen together and talk for hours. He got a commitment/connection with a girl which is also a friend of mine. According to him, there are some misunderstandings that happen, yet it's up to him how he will fix it, he only ask for my opinions. I also have a a crush, whom I'm super loyal to even if I'm helpless. I keep updating my friend every time i saw him or even something nonsense. We are just close, but then just yesterday, people began asking me if we're together or something, we both replied no.
There are only two problems I'm facing with this. The first is about what others thinks, and the second is what SHE thinks.
All i know is that we're not together and we're just close. People's impression are always like 'they were together since they were always with each other' but i will go like 'couples talk to each other silently, we talk to each other like we're a mountain apart from each other'. Most of my classmates ask if we're together. I don't know what made them think about that. I've been close to a lot of boys, and i have a connection with one of them. Yeah probably all the boys i came to be with in a friendly way, is linked or rumored to be together. They will ask like 'what's the status' my reply is like, 'close friends'. They even try to make me confess, but there is nothing to squeeze out of me.
I would like to say that, don't think that two people are together unless they confess. You can easily see who are together in a relationship and who are just friends. We are just close and we have a 'love life' of our own. We are not together, i repeat, WE ARE NOT TOGETHER.
As a said before, he has a commitment with someone. I don't want to be named as a BOYFRIENDS STEALER, whom I'm so not, and i have my own crush, SHE knows that. I don't want to be between them and be the reason to their break up. I'm just a friend who is asked for opinions but the end decision is his. I don't want to be in the hated list just because of this. I try to give as much space as i can but I"M A GIRL WHO CANT LIVE WITHOUT HER CLOSE FRIENDS. i cant even live without my best friend even if we often argue with each other. I know she's probably mad, but i wanted her to know that I'm not trying to ruin them. I cannot say this to her directly because I'm scared to see the expression of someone being hurt, if that will happen. I'm really sorry if I'm sticked to him, and that's because he's a close friend of mine.
Even if he joked, and asked his girl that we have a commitment, that's probably the most stupid thing he'd done, but that is just a joke, no takey seriously.
The bottom line, talk to people than talking to your own. Avoid malicious people too.
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